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Singing Techniques for self-confidence

Are you a little shy with your voice? Is singing only for performers? Are you feeling disconnected from your body and a bit too much in your head? Read on and discover some practical ways of being more connected to your expression and to begin to use your voice with confidence and power.

Singing Techniques for Inner Connection and vitality

Singing techniques for inner connection is a practical post because you will find several videos and audios to support you to connect more deeply to your body instrument that will help you to express with confidence and power. I hope you enjoy these videos, but I will also point out that the exercises here are just a taster and the art of mastering your voice, increasing self-awareness and expressing from the whole of your body instrument with confidence and power, is a process that takes time.

I encourage you to keep a journal so that you can jot down how the exercises feel in your body. This is very important as the exercises are part of your self-care routine and are meditative in nature. If you keep checking in with your body and writing down you experience, it will lead to further awareness and connection so that you can use this for future reference when advancing. Singing in this way can manifest as feeling more vitality and joy and can be part of a self-care routine for holistic wellness. 

Singing Techniques - Videos lessons 

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These singing techniques are not to teach you to sing, to be a better performer or necessarily to acquire better vocal technique, they are specific to the Connect & Express program which supports you to connect to the energy impulsed from your soul and express from there.  Tuning into your body and choosing a quality of gentleness that your voice can express feels liberating and empowering as well as joyful. Feel how your whole body instrument vibrates to the one song of love that is the vibration of the whole universe. Surrender to this purpose as you practice the exercises and feel the deep healing that it brings.

This singing technique is called 'The Siren.' Feel how the sound can begin in your feet and the vibrations can be felt throughout the body....

'Call & Response' 

You will hear a phrase followed by a four beat bar and then a space for you to replicate the phrase. Bring your consciousness into your body and feel how your voice flows gently and evenly in your phrases. You don't need to concentrate on breath or any other singing technique, just focus on bringing your voice from your whole body and surrendering to the process. 

This is a live Call and Response exercise that is a little more difficult over a harmonic minor scale.

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Gorgeous Hearts Connect & Express Facebook group invites you to join in with some great vocal connection exercises, meditations and connective rhythmic exercises. All have the specific purpose of supporting you to connect to the harmony and joy of your true, natural expression. The voice from your soul vibrates with love and allows love to flow in your expression - all you need to do is choose to connect!

Facing the dragon of anxiety

Anxiety – The Dragon Within

Is Anxiety Making You a Frightened Little Hobbit?

Everywhere I look there are anxious people.  I see it reflected in the posts on social media, in my relationships and on the faces of the people I meet and coach - I feel it in my body too like a lurking shadow. Some may call it out, some may silently get on with life whilst slowly becoming a stranger of a simple smile, but however it manifests, anxiety is a cruel dragon that is running our world. 

You cannot discover treasure by hiding in your hobbit house away from anxiety

You cannot hide away from anxiety in your safe little hobbit house and  find the gold!

It is close to me in the shadows of my mind, I hear the low throbbing of it as it seeps into the cracks of my own self-doubt, and I feel its presence at every blind corner.  It’s heavy, powerful and sinister. I feel it has a personality, sometimes raging and sometimes cunning, sometimes slow like tar and sometimes hot as fire. This dragon laughs at how we live and at our own stubbornness to accept that we have got things very wrong.

Anxiety is a dragon in the shadows

Anxiety laughs at our attempts to escape from it. It waits patiently as we try to ignore it or take something to blot it out of our consciousness.  We may think that we have won for a little while, but we soon realise that it has been taking a short nap, like Smaug the dragon, one eye open, lazily watching and waiting. 

BUT.......

One thing that a dragon hates, is being faced.  You see It relies on avoidance and escape so it can play a game that it knows it can win.  It’s not ready for your power – And you have more of that than you are willing to acknowledge. But beware, because sometimes when you face this dragon called anxiety, it sees the weakness in your fear, lack of trust and self-doubt. It knows deep down that you are trying to escape it.  You must face it with all of your power.  You need to look at it without judgement, without desire to be somewhere else, without a need to be free, without the fear that you won’t succeed and without doubt that you are less than it.  You are much more than it is, and it knows this. 

Back to reality...

OK,  let’s get out of the fairy tale come 'Hobbit' scenario and get back to the so-called realities of life.  What does this all mean and how can it help you to be confident, to trust and to live your life courageously so you can succeed in whatever it is you want to succeed at?

The simple answer is this:

By not trying to be free of anxiety!

Anxiety will always be there waiting so don’t waste effort trying to fight it or escape it.  When you are anxious, accept it, feel it, be still with it.  Observe everything you feel in your body and every thought that led to your feeling of anxiety and just accept it.  By accepting it, you are in a position to observe it and detach from it – it has a harder time to define you that way as you get space between it and yourself.

Prepare yourself with armor and courage

Another way to be free of anxiety is preparation.  I mean if you know this demon dragon is in a particular cave, it’s not wise to go empty handed picking up the gold you find lying around – be sure to be prepared and take your sword of courage and shield of awareness.

It does not do to leave a live dragon out of your calculations, if you live near him" 

JRR Tolkien

Increasing self-awareness for the brave and Gorgeous Heart

Gorgeous Hearts confidence coaching supports you to lift the veil of illusion and be more self-aware. Body and voice connection and awareness also supports you to reconnect to your intuition, the language of your soul. This is where you will find your courage, your power, your wisdom and all the other magical extras that are yours by right as an aware and awakened human being.

For example.  We can explore and identify what it is that creates the anxiety.  This could be:

  • A place that always makes you feel anxious - crowded places, shopping centres or heights for example.
  • An unhealthy relationship - maybe a bullying manager, a family member who judges you or maybe the relationship you have with yourself
  • Something that you have to do - you feel it's too huge, difficult or complicated for example.
  • Something intrinsic to your body and mind - hormone imbalance, negative thought patterns, limiting beliefs, mental health problems or lack of self-esteem or self-confidence

Once you have identified where it comes from, you can then work on observing and measuring the stages that you go through, from feeling slightly niggled to full blown melt down. With practice you can use a very simple strategy to know immediately when you are out of your centre and to nip anxiety in the bud before the dragon really wakes up.

Transformational Coaching 

Supports you to explore and identify the route and the goal. It is your map for the journey.

Vocal Embodiment 

Supports you to reconnect to the power and confidence within you - it is your magic ring, but rather than making you invisible, it makes you invincible. 

The wisdom is within you

The thing is you actually have a Gandalf just waiting for your attention and your orders – the great thing is, he doesn’t go missing, never gets taken prisoner or dies – But know this, you need to be the one who calls on those powers, you need to realise that you are worthy and that help is there.

Being able to see the anxiety, know why it is there and how to face it helps you to detach from it's imposing power. Don the armor of your full power and roar back at that shrunken little shadow of a dragon as it coughs up pathetic little clouds of smoke.

“So comes snow after fire, and even dragons have their endings.”

JRR Tolkien

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Self-care during menopause

A Relationship with Your Soul First!

How to build a relationship with your soul that will change all of your relationships.....

What would a conversation with your soul look like? Might you hear some things you'd prefer not to? Who would be in charge and would there be discrepancies and arguments or respect and appreciation?  The only way to find out is to start communicating right now with a part of you that is neglected but forever awaiting your return.  Let's look at some to achieve this....

How to have a relationship with your soul
  • You will not be able to hear anything if there is too much noise. Your head is in constant motion with ideas, deadlines, organisation, replaying events, creating, moaning, assessing, calculating, planning and plotting.  Give it a break and take time to come back to your body, because you're not going to be successful in building a relationship with your soul if you believe that your mind is only in your head. The intelligence in your body is far superior to what you could ever dream up in your head - I mean just how the cell membranes communicate is a fascinating journey to discover - where does that intelligence come from? And what of the intuition that reminds you from time to time that you already know? Coming back to your body offers space and serenity and stops the constant chatter.  In that silence you can begin to listen.  All great relationships thrive when there is a willingness to listen and share. Start with the relationship with your soul and get some practice!st Element
  • Adopt the practices that feel right for you. We have a few pointers that have been passed down the ages from the wise who walked the earth before us and who enjoyed a relationship with their soul, but it is as simple as choosing to listen.  Yes, the choice to reconnect to the space within you, your soul,  your sacredness, is just that - a choice.  You can choose that connection at any moment and feel your relationship with something that feels greater, more purposeful and loving.  Some of the ways that you can support yourself to connect to you, are meditation - no need for long, mind emptying meditations, just connecting to your breath for 10 minutes a day is a great tool to re-connect - movements - be conscious of how you move. Do you move gently and with tenderness or brusquely and rushed? Slow down and create space so that you can become more conscious of the way you move, touch, walk, etc. This is your expression and it will have a new quality when you connect within you - awareness - bringing your consciousness to the body really supports you to feel that connection and to leave the noise of the head behind. Gorgeous Hearts Connect & Express supports you to do just that.
  • Don't assume that you have to work on yourself to attain communication with your soul, that you have to work things out, try, be better, or reach a level of perfection. Start from the foundation that you are magnificent and divine, even if you don't always choose to be so.  Of course, if you take drugs, drink a lot of alcohol, eat poorly, fill all your space with entertainment, look for the answers outside of yourself or go into overdrive to the detriment of your health, it will be more difficult to build that relationship, however, it doesn't mean that you can't. You are always connected - you are one body - one instrument or one vehicle of expression and you can always choose to align to the light and love of your soul.  Here's a hint too - if you are aligned with that light and love - how on earth would you be able to abuse your body via drugs, alcohol, processed food, driving yourself to exhaustion etc? Would it even be possible? Rome wasn't built in a day and if you lose your awareness, just press the reset button and reconnect again - you will soon begin to feel that the lack of awareness just isn't worth it.

How does your relationship with your soul affect the other relationships in your life?

If you feel stressed, anxious, emotional or chaotic, to name a few of the distractions that hold you back from the joy that you would naturally express, you may resonate with the word 'disconnected,' as it is in fact true that there is no harmony or flow when these contracting feelings invade your life.  The consequences are far reaching but include physical and mental health problems, stressful relationships and perhaps a block in the flow of abundance on offer, whether that be in the form of dating, money, clients or other opportunities.  

What kind of relationship are we looking at here? It is certainly true, that old adage, that you cannot love another until love yourself, but before there is love, there needs to be respect and before respect, decency - how much decency do you show yourself? Let's just go with the physical body as way of an example: 

  1. 1
    Do you get a decent night's sleep? 
  2. 2
     Do you eat a decent amount of healthy food?
  3. 3
    Do you spend a decent amount of quality time with yourself without distractions and entertainment?

And what about respect?

  1. 1
    Do you respect the need to rest at the times your body asks for it? 
  2. 2
     Do you respect your body enough to stop stuffing it with junk?
  3. 3
    Do you respect the need for inner contemplation and self-awareness?

You can appreciate that it seems that the majority of humanity have a long way to go in order to reach 'love.' It  highlights or rather exposes the problems that we can have relating to others if these basic tenets are not met. Our relationships may be based on needs, expectations, attachment to comfort, attachment to drama or stimulation, for example, if we are not choosing a foundation of at least decency when it comes to the relationship we have with ourselves.  

But what if your soul said you have nothing to work at, nothing to perfect, no 'long way to go'? Imagine you could hear your soul speak and it said: "hey I'm here, I've always been here and I will be here long after you have finished your jaunt on earth - I am the love you desire, the light in the dark and the wisdom and grace in within the void you feel - just choose to connect within and you will hear me and feel me" what do you think your relationship with yourself may look like in this scenario? Would you be able to look at another and see the same potential of love in there eyes whether they were choosing to notice it or not?

a relationship with soul - Gorgeous Hearts

Maybe all we need to do is surrender to the fact that we are much more than we believe ourselves to be. Maybe we can stop all of the trying, the control, the need to work things out, the self-development, the journeys and the constant seeking. Could it be that all we need to do is listen in to the silence within our inner-hearts and begin to allow a relationship that begins with being decent and respectful to ourselves so that we can begin to feel the fire of love that awaits us? And could this be the answer to all the problems that beset our relationships? Could we choose to see the love in another - whatever hurts their behaviour is stirring in us?  If we choose to be love, we will be love - it's as simple as! 

CONNECT WITH YOUR SOUL IN 6 STEPS

If you felt inspired by reading this blog and you would like to go deeper into that beautiful realm that exists within you, click on the button below and get my free guide, 'Inwards and Soulwards 6 Steps to Access Your Innate Wisdom' you will find some practical and self-nurturing tips that will increase your self-awareness and support you to wake up the innate intuition and wisdom that abounds within and is the result of a re-connection to your soul.....